Category Archives: Current social issues

Frustration with the vaccination debate

The other night The Nightly Show had a panel discussing the pro-vaccination/anti-vaccination (“I prefer to call it the pro-choice movement”) debate.

I was very disappointed by the anti-vaxxer’s showing. I realize my bias leans towards pro-vaccination, but I was looking forward to receiving information that would at least force me to reconsider or reexamine my position.

Using that show as representative of what the debate is about, here is what was advanced as the main arguments of why she’s against vaccination:

1) drug companies make money from vaccines (lots of money)

2) parents ALWAYS know what’s best for their children and are completely within their rights to engage in anti-societal behavior to the point of putting other parents’ kids at risk

3) healthcare providers do a crappy job of getting informed consent for vaccination

4) people are scared of science, math, and statistics, and discussing vaccines intelligently requires a sound understanding of all three

Not a single argument advanced on the show addresses whether vaccines do the job they’re supposed to do and whether they do that job safely with minimal risk.

My responses to the arguments raised are as follows:

1) There are lots of reasons to be distrustful of “the man.” But if your sensitivities are offended by the commercialization of medicine, fight for socialized medicine and government funded research expansion.

2) If you truly believe parents ALWAYS know what’s best for their kids, shadow child protective service investigators for a month. The saying is “it takes a village to raise a child.” And the truth is, children need to be around other children. Choosing not to vaccinate creates isolation by necessity for children who can’t be vaccinated for reasons more compelling than an individual parent’s judgment. In some communities choosing not to vaccination leads to the un-immunized child being ostracized.

3) If healthcare providers need to do a better job on informed consent, put your efforts towards making that happen. The anti-vaxxer came up with an interesting factoid (that I have not independently verified) that African-American boys were 3.4x more likely to experience an adverse reaction to the MMR vaccine when following the CDC immunization schedule. That fact does not support a conclusion that all vaccines are bad. That fact tells me an African-American parent has sound reason to slow down their son’s vaccination schedule, but the rest of us don’t.

4) I don’t know what to suggest for remedying No. 4. Other than to say, suck it up and use the thing between your ears towards its highest ability.

Peripherally, the Tuskegee trials were brought up during the show. I’m all for demanding accountability from the man. That’s what the American Experiment exists for and why we’ve got the bill of rights. But if something works, and the eradication of measles in 2000 suggested that at the very least the Measles vaccine worked, don’t f*ck it up for other people a decade later because you’re concerned about a flu vaccine. Different virus, different concern.

If you can learn and memorize Pokemon you can learn and memorize the different viruses and the vaccines that are available.

#keepingit100

It is not ok for men to hit women, and it is not ok for women to hit men, it is not ok for women to hit women, and it is not ok for men to hit men.

I give exactly three fucks about football: (1) one Cowboys game a year, (2) Texas/OU, and (3) the Superbowl – but only for the food.

So, that’s why this whole player abusing his wife story is pretty new to me. I missed it, because, I miss most things about football, by choice. I wish I hadn’t missed it though, because this whole situation seems to be a giant case of mismanagement and horribles. 

Basic thoughts:

(1) Violence against your partner is not ok. (Caveat: if you are defending yourself against violence by your partner, by all means, defend yourself.) It is not ok for men to hit women, and it is not ok for women to hit men, it is not ok for women to hit women, and it is not ok for men to hit men. 

(2) Yes, men suffer abuse too. Stop dismissing that reality. I’m looking at you media, and your slight or nonexistent mentions of male victims of domestic violence.

(3) Victims stay with their abusers for a variety of reasons. If you’re part of the situation, you may understand the complexities of it, if you’re not, you probably don’t. The #whyistay conversation is amazingly powerful. 

(4) It seems that the USA as a country still have a lot of people who hold the belief that domestic violence is a personal matter. I worked with a client who didn’t report her abuse in the US because when you reported an issue in her home country you were turned away. Her counselor had convinced her that that wouldn’t happen here. Sometimes, I’m not so sure.

(5) NFL – you screwed up when you only suspended the player for two games.  Violence is violence, it shouldn’t make a difference if you say you didn’t have the full video, you publicly had a partial video account of the incident. The actions of this week were pretty obvious CYA even before the news came out that you had the whole video when you made the original disciplinary call. 

I’ve slept with a lot of jobs

My birthday was not that long ago, and every year recently, around my birthday I start reevaluating my life. What do I want? What choices have I made that have landed me here? Where is here really? Is it ever really too much wine?

Mind wandering happens, odd connections are made, and then this:

I realized today that I am the lady who sleeps with all the guys, but in relation to my career.

So, here’s the deal. I’m smart. That’s generally a good thing. However, it means that I’ve been able to get pretty far down several different wrong paths based on intellect and talent. But there’s been no passion, no commitment, you could say.

Now, let’s think about the conventionally hot lady. All the guys want her, and she likes the attention and has a good time, kind of. But there’s no real passion, no commitment, you could say.

Having exceptional natural attributes of any kind can be phenomenal, but it can also create hazards for the beholder. And, I’m going to say that I am specifically writing this with women in mind. Believe it or not, there are ingrained mentalities and double standards that work against women in just about every facet of life. So, if you’re really pretty, and you date a lot, and you own your sexuality, you’re a slut. So, if you’re really smart, and you’re successful in school, you should be a (doctor, lawyer, politician, insert whatever profession someone is pushing you towards).

You have the ability to get pretty far before you realize you don’t like what or who you’re doing. So, you make a change. Well, damn, hard as it is, push as you may, you’re just not satisfied. You’re talented, you try one more position. Still not right. At this point, you start second and third guessing your choices.

I’m recently 31. As I’m writing this, I realize I’ve worked for over half my life. I’ve dated a ton of jobs, yall. I worked in restaurants, in education, as a journalist, in nonprofit outreach and fundraising, in education (again), for a government agency, in several different law offices, as a small business owner, and currently in an investigative role.

I pursued each and every path because I thought it was the right one. Different people and different environmental factors have influenced my decision making process along the way. Not undue influence, just influence. I’ve always made my decisions. But, I’ve felt the pressures of the opinions of family/friends/significant others/society.

After every interview (date), after every morning after (career change), I’ve changed and grown closer to becoming myself in my career. It has been messy, and there was some shame. I’ve learned that there was no reason for shame. I’ve learned to love my mess. One day I’ll find the right position.

I have the feeling it will be soon. Things are taking shape in a way they haven’t before. Maybe it is because I’ve made it back to my genuine self. Maybe it is because I’m opening myself to being open to following my impractical inclinations, and allowing my mind to wander in the natural and creative way it does.

Put judgment aside. Life’s a process. Let people figure out their own paths. Don’t expect each path to look the same. As a society, we’ve judged the pretty lady. If you’ve seen my resume, you’ve probably judged me. That’s unfortunate for you, because I’m pretty damn awesome.

 

Raising the minimum wage

So, it’s kind of depressing that anyone who makes minimum wage and has to support additional people is living in poverty, or way below poverty if they’re in a high cost of living area. Seriously, look it up, unless you’re single without dependents, minimum wage pay is below the poverty line for the entire freaking country.

Some people are concerned that raising the federal minimum wage from $7.25 to $10.10 will hurt businesses (it certainly will make payroll hurt more for a while) and result in job loss (maybe, maybe not, it’s basically speculation at this point).

Maybe the solution is to have this conversation every two years instead of once a decade. There should be incremental raises of the minimum wage that correspond with the overall rate of inflation and growth of the economy. After all if congress deserves multiple raises within a decade, surely the people who are supposed to pay the taxes that support Congressional raises should make more money so they can pay more taxes…. Okay, so that line of reasoning got away from me and came out pro-government instead of pro-individual, but the point remains minimum wage needs to be evaluated frequently.

So, three years after the last increase in minimum wage it could have been increased to $8.50, and then three years after that to $9.75, and then this year to $11.00 without creating an economic “shock and awe” that rattles businesses, and leads to more people being able to buy the stuff that businesses sell on their own dime rather than the taxpayers. So many benefits from having frequent minimum wage conversations instead of waiting until it reaches damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t crisis levels.

But Alecto, didn’t you hear that the economy was bad? Yeah, I did. I lived through it too. And it’s still sluggish, but sacrificing the low income earners is what keeps it sluggish and increases the strain on various safety-net programs. People who don’t make enough money to invest spend all their money on rent and consumer goods. If they have more to spend, money keeps circulating in the economy so businesses stay in business.

So congress, pass a law that requires you to increase the minimum wage every time you increase your own salaries….

Potential additions to the Ten Commandments, besides the golden rule

After listening to the past couple of news cycles I was thinking that it might be time to make a couple of additions to the Ten Commandments since many Christians aren’t able to comply with the golden rule. You know the “do unto others which you would have them do unto you”?

11. Mind your own business.

That is, make sure you are fully complying with the ten that came before. Particularly the bearing false witness and stealing ones. It’s all to easy to “like” someone’s viewpoint and endorse potentially commandment violating behavior because that person is spreading lies or ignorance and stealing away another’s reputation.

12. Do good works and help those in need without judgment.

But, wait, that directly contradicts #11 “mind your own business”. Not really. If there are people in need in your community, it is the community’s responsibility to lift them up. Need being defined as shelter, food, clothing, education, and appropriate additional assistance if long term illness or disability is the cause of their need. But if somebody does something that you find abhorrent, use your “I” statements and move on with your life.

For example, “I feel scared and sad when someone I admire commits suicide because I’m afraid that someday it will be me. I would like to engage in a meaningful conversation about mental illness and preventing future suicides.”

There is no reason to attack someone who is no longer able to defend themselves, and it is really cruel to impose that burden upon the survivors who are still reeling with the question, “why?”

Like a Bad neighbor, we’re never there — or over commitment at a national level

The world has multiple humanitarian crises at the moment. There is the fighting in Gaza (when is there not fighting in Gaza?), there is Syria, there is an Ebola outbreak, there is the Ukraine, etc. Then there are the Central American CHILDREN who have risked life and limb, left everything they know and everyone they love, to try to seek ASYLUM here. In our country.

Asylum is a big deal ya’ll, and the most important of these crises for us to address as quickly as possible. Once we develop a plan and solution to provide for these children then we can focus efforts on the next most pressing crises and work our way down the list. These are not divide-and-conquer situations, most of them are unite-and-improve situations.

With respect to the children refugees, I would suggest the solution is not sending them back to raping, pillaging, and drug violence because we don’t want to plant the seeds for a wave of retributive semi-domestic terrorism in twenty years. If we send them back, some of these kids will survive, become war-hardened and focus efforts on those that did them wrong. We don’t need to creat a bin laden-like guerrilla leader on our southern border.

Our entire country was founded and developed by people trying to get away from persecution or war in their homelands. We did really bad things to native peoples in our quest to get away from bad things and create a society that provided safety for refugees whether they’re white, black, brown, yellow, or whatever other shade human skin tones come in. We cannot have a national mid-life crises and say, “I don’t want to do it anymore.” This is our identity and we must continue to provide sanctuary to peoples of different stripes and creeds.

We need to find ways to provide these children refuge with good shelter, healthy food, appropriate clothing, competitive education, and due process of law. We need to bring them into the fold and make them part of us. They’re children. Really brave children. Don’t punish them because they’re only children and can’t yet fix them problems in their home countries. They need our help. And they need it now.

“God-given” right to bear arms

Saw on Facebook someone standing up for their “god-given” rights to bear arms with an obligatory picture of a semi-automatic, high capacity magazine, rifle.

These are the arms that God gave us the right to bear:

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Image found here. The artist has some really nice stuff.

And not everybody gets those. Granted, people who lose those arms later in life can usually blame other people for their loss.

But the right to possess and use guns is granted by government and the people who created that government. People ratified the second amendment. God had nothing to do with it. If the people, and the government they created and run, have decided that it’s time to take away the right to use guns, at least this will be an intentional process executed after due deliberation. And require a constitutional amendment. Unlike, say, an amputation due to land mines, car wreck, or injuries sustained after being shot with a gun.

People gave you the right to carry these:

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Image found here.

God gave most of us these:

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Debt sucks

Debt collection is a frustrating endeavor. Whether you work in the business of collecting debts, or you are a person who is believed to owe money, frustration abounds. Heaven help those of us who actually owe money and hit hard patches that make repayment difficult.

In this post I’ll talk about the debtor perspective. Full confession, I’m not perfect and I’ve overextended myself. With the help of a consumer credit counseling agency things are getting back on the right track and the creditors are getting paid because I want to honor my obligations. Maybe if healthcare were more affordable in this country (and education), I wouldn’t find myself in this boat because I wouldn’t have delayed paying off credit cards in favor of medical bills, but that’s another post for another time.

In spite of my admitted lack of perfection, in my 10+ years of being a debt-carrying credit card user, I’ve never missed a payment and only been late three or four times (and not even by a full 30 days). But last month, the payment on one credit card was underpaid by $6 due to an ongoing miscommunication between the agency and the creditor. Because I’m on a plan, I no longer submit payments directly to the creditors, even in the face of such errors. Since July 28, when I received the email from the creditor alerting me to the underpayment, I have received 23 phone calls to try to collect that money ($6). The agency has called the creditor and worked out a solution to this situation and the money will be in their hands on Friday, but the calls keep coming.

23 phone calls for one $6 shortage on one account.

I can’t even imagine how much the stress level would increase if you multiplied that 23 phone calls by all the accounts I have. Some people reading this may be thinking, “that’s what you get for {being overextended} {being a lazy bum} {being sloppy}.” I’m just a microcosm of our society though. And generally speaking, I’m one of the lucky ones. I went and got those degrees that are part of the “pathway to prosperity.” I’ve got decent jobs that pay well (could be better but it could be worse too).

I heard an interesting story on the radio today about the recently publicized statistic that nearly 40% of credit users have debts on collections. According to the program’s speakers, companies buy overdue accounts for pennies on the dollar in exchange for the right to collect the debt. However, the original creditor makes NO guarantee that the information they are providing is accurate. Thus, collectors are calling people claiming they owe money. Many do, but many don’t because it’s already been paid, disputed, or discharged in bankruptcy. Good people are paying money they don’t owe because they are sick of getting 23 phone calls in a week. Good people are paying because they can’t figure out how to solve the problem. Good people are paying because they can’t afford a lawyer who might be able to figure out how to clear up the errors.