Every once in a while I get questions from my clients that throw me.

Today my intern was questioned about why she wasn’t married, and why she didn’t have babies. This intern, she’s amazingly intelligent. She’s a legal intern – one bar exam from becoming a fellow female attorney who I look forward to working with for a number of years. She’s also very personable and pretty.

Shock. Confusion. But you’re so nice. Seriously, you don’t have children? (Implied thought – so, what’s wrong with you??) Culturally it seems to be confusing when I say I have dogs.  But, in all seriousness, we’ve been busy. I’m early 30s, as is another of my colleagues. Some of our clients are just a few years older and have teenagers. We have law degrees and careers. Next time someone asks about my kids, I’m going to start rocking my law degree. Maybe I’ll pair it with the licenses I have from two states. I have triplets.

This is not to be critical of women who choose to be mothers. Choice is what is important. I am actively making mine right now. This to me is why I identify as pro choice. No one else should be able to make decisions about my body. I love a good squishy baby, and a fun toddler giggle makes me smile. I love being an aunty, and I am thrilled for each of the new humans my friends bring to this world. I also love beer, traveling, and my career.